Why is it that so many people want to lose weight, get healthy, tone up, and yet so many struggle with it and end up failing?
That’s not okay with me.
I’m going to show you in this article the specific reasons why people just like you fail every single day when it comes to losing weight and how you can tactically fix it.
So sit back in your bean bag chair, get the hamster close, and let’s chat.
Reason #1: Too Much Intensity
So many times when one starts on their fat loss journey it’s very common to want to do waaay too much and go too hard.
I’ve had coaching clients want to start a program and try to workout every single day for hours on end and feel like if they’re not on the floor in the fetal position because they went so hard their workout was a waste.
I’m telling you right now that if you do that it’ll last for about 5 days and you’ll want to throw in the towel. That kind of mentality isn’t optimal for fat loss and you literally can’t maintain it.
So how do you figure out the right amount of intensity?
It all comes down to a couple things.
1) Can you maintain what you’re doing?
2) Are you dreading/hating it?
If you can’t maintain your program and hate it all because of the intensity you should turn it down a little bit until you feel like you’re in a good place.
Reason #2: Extreme Programs
This kind of falls into what I was talking about just a second ago. With extreme programs you will notice some short term gain, but long term they almost never work because they simply can’t be maintained.
Let me give you some examples of ‘extreme programs’:
– Low/no carbs
– Low/no fats
– 100% plant based
– Massive calorie restriction
– Massive food depravation (where you can’t ever eat “these foods” again)
– ‘Jumpstarts’ (I wrote an entire article about this one HERE)
See the trend?
If you cannot maintain what you’e doing for the next 10-20 years you probably have no reason to do it and should go with a different program.
Reason #3: Not Following a Program that Fits Your Lifestyle & that Makes You Happy
This is the one I see probably more than anything else. So many times people only see 1 or 2 ways to win in weight loss (or they see a friend do well on THEIR own program), so they turn their lifestyle upside-down and sideways to do it and then results are short-lived because once again it can’t be maintained.
The best thing you can do is figure out how to make fitness and weight loss meet YOUR lifestyle and YOUR happiness. Then it becomes waaay less complicated and less difficult to lose weight where you can 100% maintain it.
That’s one of the first things I do when I start working with someone in my online coaching program—find out about their lifestyle and what makes my client happy and then I go to work building a plan based around that.
Always find a program that meets you where you’re at with your lifestyle and happiness and you’ll win—I promise.
Reason #4: A ‘F*ck It’ Pass
First thing I’d like to say is this used to be me—I always used the “fuck it, I’ll start back Monday” pass. One thing you have to realize is you are 1 day, actually 1 meal or workout from being back on track.
Don’t wait until Christmas is over, don’t wait until Monday rolls around, don’t wait until *insert random life event here* is over, just start (or get back on track) now. Like this effing second. Don’t even finish reading this sentence before you get back on track.
Do not use the “Fuck it” pass. It will be detrimental to your fat loss success. There’s never ‘perfect’ timing. Do it now.
Reason #5: Changing Too Much at Once
This one is another reeaallly common reason I have to talk my online coaching clients out of a lot. Don’t change every variable at once.
You only need to change 1 or 2 things at a time. There’s a couple reasons for that.
1) If you change everything at once most people can’t maintain it (that would fall under the extreme programs and too much intensity).
2) Your body is going to adapt to what you’re doing so you don’t want to throw out all of your weapons at once. You change 1 or 2 variables (ex: start strength training & eat more protein) where it’s totally maintainable (you’ll likely lose some weight-woo!) and then when your progress starts to slow down (because it will) you change 1 or 2 more things. This way it’s a nice and slow process that continues progress.
Reason #6: Not Specific Enough Goals
Goal setting is super important. Too often I see people set very bland goals. You want to have super specific goals.
A really common goal is “I just want to lose some weight.”
That’s great and all but with not very specific goals it’s hard to get fired up about accomplishing them and it’s super easy to get to where you’re just going through the motions because you don’t know exactly where you’re going.
When your goals are clearly defined you know exactly what you’re working for.
A better way to word your goal would be like this: “I want to drop 5 pant sizes so I can finally fit into this pink bikini when I go to Florida this Summer.”
It’s the difference between as a kid your parents saying “We’re going on vacation” to “We’re going to Disney World and going to ride all of the rides and stay there a full week!”
See the difference?
Reason #7: Lack of Awareness
Awareness is pivotal when trying to lose weight.
It’s like you not being aware your engine in your car is about to blow. If you were aware of the problem you would know to fix it, otherwise you’re oblivious.
In weight loss most people aren’t aware of their strengths and their weaknesses. You want to bet on your strengths and know what you’re weak at.
This goes way deeper than knowing how many calories you’re eating and how much your body burns (that’s still important too).
If you know for a fact that keeping ice cream and chips in your house will lead to you binging on them wouldn’t it be a good idea to not have them around your house? Why set yourself up for failure?
If you know for a fact that going straight home from work before you go to the gym will lead to you not going to the gym at all, be self-aware enough to know that you should take your workout clothes with your to work so you can go straight to the gym before you go home.
If you know for a fact that you always have to swing through a fast food joint on your lunch break at work, you need to be self-aware enough to know to take food with you to work that matches your goals.
Make sense? Self-awareness will make things sooo much easier.
Reason #8: A Perfection Mindset
This one is a killer. If you don’t get anything else from this article take this home with you:
You do NOT have to be perfect to have amazing results—you just have to be consistent.
I’d suggest reading that again and tattooing it onto your right arm.
Consistency beats perfection every single time.
You don’t have to be perfect by any means, you just have to be consistent. If you’re consistently strength training each week, a couple days off or a week off won’t hurt you.
If you’re consistent with your nutrition, a week on vacation where you aren’t dieting won’t hurt you. As long as you’re consistent and moving in the right direction I encourage my clients NOT to be perfect.
There you have it, 8 reasons why most people suck at losing weight and how to fix them.
Let me know if you ever need anything, and if you haven’t grabbed your FREE copy of Tactical Fat Loss, just click right HERE and I’ll email your copy right over.